Miss Bicolandia wrote:I never really reply to posts like this for the lack of experience in relationships, but I am all for the glory of love. The last part of the post when you became pitiful instead of being angry towards him just answers your qualms about what both of you have. You are not of his past, but if his past worries you, there's no point of keeping him and what you have with him. It's time to let go. Cliche as this may sound, but if you really love him and are willing to forget what you now know about, then stay.
asiankiddo88 wrote:Hello everyone. Im sorry for posting this here. This may sound very shallow but it has affected me so much. Presently I have a BF who is ten years younger than me (Im 32, he's 22). We have known each other by name/face since we are both working in the same company. Few chats on messenger later, we became official. We vowed to be very careful since we were working on the same field. On our first day as couples, I told him more about myself. That he is my second BF ( and might be my first sexual experience with a guy since my Ex was born again christian). He told me that I am his second BF as well, but he already had sexual experience with his ex. AT first it was hard for me to comprehend the thought that my new partner is no longer "new to the business" but since I love him so much, i promised him that I will try not to think about his past. I also told him that I have trust issues on our very first day as couples. I wanted him to be honest and transparent. I vowed not to check his fone or social media accounts unless he will give me a reason to do so. He made a promise to cherish our relationship and to be honest at all times. Few days have past, I gave in. I gave myself to him..It was the most amazing feeling. To love and be loved. Our relationship grew stronger. We were both happy. Until one time, I became very curious on how he seems to be very "sanay" when it comes to love making. He would ask me to do things that I only see in porn movies. I became suspicious. He would at times noticed me having blank stares everytime my suspicion kicks in. I asked him again if he is being honest and faithful and he said yes. Until one day, i can no longer keep my anxiety. I asked the name of his ex and without hesitation, he gave it. I contacted him using fake account to fish for details about my partner now. The Ex told me that things did not turn out nicely between them. Until finally, i introduced myself to him, that I am his Ex's new BF. Without any bitterness or ill feeling, he told me more about the person we both loved. I was shocked...... The person I thought to be naive, soft spoken and discreet turned out to be a sex addict. He cheated thats why they broke up. I cried for 2 days. I fear for our relationship. Then I had the courage to confront him about his past. He said he had 4 other sexual experiences. I cried even more. I had second thoughts of continuing our relationship. He broke his promise and he lost my trust. But I love him so much that I was able to forgive and forget. Having been diagnosed with anxiety and depression in the past, things became hard for me. Thoughts keep coming. Then one day, for the very last time, while kneeling, I asked him if he is being 100% honest. We were both crying. He asked me to be strong. Then he finally told the the truth. My BF had 32 other sexual experiences after his last relationship. From the people he met on Grinder app, to the group chats, to the sex meet ups, to the group sex he had. I was devastated. i can only say why????? bakit????? i was floored..=( Emotions started to set in.. Anger, disgust, pity, fear of getting a disease. I was not able to contain myself. I slapped him and ran away. Pain became anger. I threatened to ruined his reputation to his family. I said horrible things over the phone. He begged, and begged for mercy..I broke up with him and told him to prepare for the worst. That I will make his life a living hell. I asked for the passwords of all of his social media account. I confronted him over the phone with every person i saw on his accounts. The numbers grew that i lost count. Good thing i left his house before i saw those accounts or else i could have done something i would regret for the rest of my life. He was very scared of me. Our night ended up with me cursing him and saying the nastiest things one can imagine. The next day, I asked him to go to my house to see what he did to me. I planned of physically hurting him more. I asked him to return everything i gave him (shoes, clothes etc). He showed up to the house. When i saw him, he looked emotionally drained. Naawa ako sa bata.. instead of slapping him, i gave him the tightest hug. we both cried. I realized that I was not part of his past. That he never cheated on me during our relationship. He was not only honest in the beginning. Anger turned into pity. I can see his sincerity on his eyes. Awang awa talaga ako. I asked him why he did that. He said he was afraid of losing me if i learn about his past. I promised to pull him out from his addiction, to take good care of him until he settles for good. I wanted to continue our relationship but i cant stop myself from thinking about his dark past. The conversations, the pictures..and its preventing me from loving him completely. I really dont know what, how and where to start...Hinang hina na kami pareho kakaiyak. Need your honest advice....
Preciosa Mapagbigay wrote:anoh na namang kadramahan toh vakz,,, kalye serye na naman bah
asiankiddo88 wrote:Hello everyone. Im sorry for posting this here. This may sound very shallow but it has affected me so much. Presently I have a BF who is ten years younger than me (Im 32, he's 22). We have known each other by name/face since we are both working in the same company. Few chats on messenger later, we became official. We vowed to be very careful since we were working on the same field. On our first day as couples, I told him more about myself. That he is my second BF ( and might be my first sexual experience with a guy since my Ex was born again christian). He told me that I am his second BF as well, but he already had sexual experience with his ex. AT first it was hard for me to comprehend the thought that my new partner is no longer "new to the business" but since I love him so much, i promised him that I will try not to think about his past. I also told him that I have trust issues on our very first day as couples. I wanted him to be honest and transparent. I vowed not to check his fone or social media accounts unless he will give me a reason to do so. He made a promise to cherish our relationship and to be honest at all times. Few days have past, I gave in. I gave myself to him..It was the most amazing feeling. To love and be loved. Our relationship grew stronger. We were both happy. Until one time, I became very curious on how he seems to be very "sanay" when it comes to love making. He would ask me to do things that I only see in porn movies. I became suspicious. He would at times noticed me having blank stares everytime my suspicion kicks in. I asked him again if he is being honest and faithful and he said yes. Until one day, i can no longer keep my anxiety. I asked the name of his ex and without hesitation, he gave it. I contacted him using fake account to fish for details about my partner now. The Ex told me that things did not turn out nicely between them. Until finally, i introduced myself to him, that I am his Ex's new BF. Without any bitterness or ill feeling, he told me more about the person we both loved. I was shocked...... The person I thought to be naive, soft spoken and discreet turned out to be a sex addict. He cheated thats why they broke up. I cried for 2 days. I fear for our relationship. Then I had the courage to confront him about his past. He said he had 4 other sexual experiences. I cried even more. I had second thoughts of continuing our relationship. He broke his promise and he lost my trust. But I love him so much that I was able to forgive and forget. Having been diagnosed with anxiety and depression in the past, things became hard for me. Thoughts keep coming. Then one day, for the very last time, while kneeling, I asked him if he is being 100% honest. We were both crying. He asked me to be strong. Then he finally told the the truth. My BF had 32 other sexual experiences after his last relationship. From the people he met on Grinder app, to the group chats, to the sex meet ups, to the group sex he had. I was devastated. i can only say why????? bakit????? i was floored..=( Emotions started to set in.. Anger, disgust, pity, fear of getting a disease. I was not able to contain myself. I slapped him and ran away. Pain became anger. I threatened to ruined his reputation to his family. I said horrible things over the phone. He begged, and begged for mercy..I broke up with him and told him to prepare for the worst. That I will make his life a living hell. I asked for the passwords of all of his social media account. I confronted him over the phone with every person i saw on his accounts. The numbers grew that i lost count. Good thing i left his house before i saw those accounts or else i could have done something i would regret for the rest of my life. He was very scared of me. Our night ended up with me cursing him and saying the nastiest things one can imagine. The next day, I asked him to go to my house to see what he did to me. I planned of physically hurting him more. I asked him to return everything i gave him (shoes, clothes etc). He showed up to the house. When i saw him, he looked emotionally drained. Naawa ako sa bata.. instead of slapping him, i gave him the tightest hug. we both cried. I realized that I was not part of his past. That he never cheated on me during our relationship. He was not only honest in the beginning. Anger turned into pity. I can see his sincerity on his eyes. Awang awa talaga ako. I asked him why he did that. He said he was afraid of losing me if i learn about his past. I promised to pull him out from his addiction, to take good care of him until he settles for good. I wanted to continue our relationship but i cant stop myself from thinking about his dark past. The conversations, the pictures..and its preventing me from loving him completely. I really dont know what, how and where to start...Hinang hina na kami pareho kakaiyak. Need your honest advice....
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